I know, I know I am a little bit behind but yesterday was ridiculous. I was not home all day, but it was a good day! Anyway, back to that later. Tj and I have been married almost two years. Crazy right!? Plus, our four year dating anniversary is coming up in a couple of days. I have learned some things in my short stint as a married woman. So here are my lessons learned.
1. Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness.
~Do not hold a grudge. Just don’t. Its not attractive and it just leads to resentment and a super unhappy marriage. The more you forgive, the happier you will be together.
2. Amp up the intimacy.
~ I am not just talking physically but that is also super important. Talk with each other. Do things he likes to do or she likes to do. Find things to do that you both like. Do date nights regularly. Get physical! In and out of the bedroom. It is super important to stay connected otherwise you lose each other in the chaos of life.
3. Do not talk bad about your spouse behind their back or with them around.
~ Such a big one! You want them to trust you and to know that you respect them. If you talk bad about them to other people, you are putting fuel in the resentment tank of your marriage. You want that tank empty! It will show that you respect them and that you care deeply for them to succeed in the outside world.
4. Jealousy is not good.
~ They picked you. You need to realize that. Their is no need to be insecure in marriage unless there are some major marital problems already brewing. Being insecure about other women and your husband leaving you for such women does not lift you up and does not lift him up either. Enjoy your marriage and be awesome!
5. The little things.
~ This is one thing that both TJ and I struggle with, just showing each other in the little ways that we love each other daily. Sure we say it, but just doing little things like the dishes, or picking up our laundry or rubbing the others back without asking sometimes goes by the wayside. Keep up the little things!
So, there is my five lessons I have learned. What have you learned in your marriages?