I love my husband a lot! Although, we have been married for 3 years and we are definitely not in the honeymoon stage anymore. It happens. I desperately want to keep the spark alive in our relationship and I know it is going to take effort on my part just as much as I want him to romance me. Plus it really just brings joy to my life to see him happy and feeling pursued!
I found this lovely little bit of loveliness from Steph over at Littlebitofparadise about romancing your husband.
I have adjusted the list just a little bit to mirror what my husband loves and I think I am going to do my best to implement them over the next month or so. I will definitely keep you updated on how this goes.
37 Ways To Romance Your Husband
- Dress up, primp (makeup, hair) before he comes home from work. Taking care of your physical appearance for his sake, if not for your own, means a lot to a man.
- Buy a six-pack of his favorite beer and put it front and center in the fridge with a post-it love note on it. (If he prefers dessert, do the same with a half gallon of his favorite ice cream in the freezer).
- Determine your husband’s “love language” and do at least one thing a day for a week that specifically says “I love you” according to his love language (see the book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman).
- Make him a romantic dinner wearing your favorite apron and his favorite lingerie.
- Go on a milkshake date. It is goofy and just a fun way to connect over something yummy!
- Go shopping together for new lingerie. Often.
- If your husband loves books and/or music: plan a “bookstore date” where you’ll each pick out a new book for the other, or a new CD. Don’t forget coffee and dessert and relaxing convo in the café before you leave!
- Leave a lacy unmentionable in his gym bag or briefcase so he’ll find it during the day at work.
- Watch his favorite nerdy show with him. Even though it may seem silly or even lame in some ways, watch it with him. He will love it!
- Let him sleep in on a weekend.
- Order his favorite food and have it delivered just as he gets home for a surprise date night.
- Always affirm and compliment him in public. Don’t criticize or belittle, even if your girlfriends are doing it to their husbands at the same gathering.
- Let him pick the date, time, location, position. Just make sure he knows you can’t wait. Alternatively turn the tables on him: YOU pick the scenario when he least expects it. Show him that you can’t keep your hands off him!
- Let him have time with his guy friends. Don’t nag him to come home right away!
- Don’t give him a to-do list on the weekend.
- Verbally express your admiration and respect. Often.
- Defer to his decisions joyfully. That means without complaining.
- Choose to spend a night in with him rather than going out with friends.
- Text/email little notes and messages during the work day. Sexy ones and “just cuz” ones.
- Book a local hotel room, and take him, candles, wine, and take-out dinner for a romantic escapade neither of you will forget.
- Do something active together.
- Plan weekly “date night ins”. Order take-out. Rent a movie. Play a game. Just sit on the couch and soak in each other. Whatever makes it a night relaxing and fun for the two of you, but especially for him.
- Admire his physique. Verbally express appreciation that he takes care of himself.
- Allow him to play his favorite computer/smartphone/video game “guilt free” (i.e., without nagging from the wifey).
- Plan an outing for just the two of you doing his favorite outdoor adventure: kayaking, tennis, hiking, trail running, biking, snorkeling, fishing, etc.
- Let him pick the movie, TV show, or game. Even if it’s one of those action flicks you can’t stand.
- Choose to wear a sexy nightgown to bed vs. the oversized t-shirt and flannels you love so much.
- Celebrate his achievements at work, school, etc. Make a big deal out of his accomplishments.
- Thank him often for being a good provider and taking such good care of you.
- Make eye contact and give full attention to his response after you ask him “So babe, how was your day?”
- Pray for his intentions, and make sure he knows you’re his #1 prayer warrior.
- Buy a week’s worth of new silky/lacy under things and wear one new item every day for a week. Tell him he has a new surprise to check out at the end of each day. (No Hanes or Fruit of the Looms allowed for this one, ladies!)
- Go on a brewery tour or distillery tour. Something he loves and something I love.
- Apologize sincerely for something that upset him and ask for his forgiveness. And if he reciprocates with an apology, don’t demand a specific list of what he’s apologizing for. Just accept it. And if you can seal that apology with a hug, a kiss, and perhaps some make-up rough-and-tumble, so much the better.
- Verbalize your desire to try something new/adventurous in the bedroom. Or out of the bedroom.
- Make his favorite meal. I am one to try new recipes all the time and some of them can be quite strange. Make something he knows and loves. He will be so appreciative of it!
- Say “I love you” verbally. At least a bajillion times a day.
What are ways you like to romance your husband? I love finding new ways to show TJ just how much I love him!
I know, I know I am a little bit behind but yesterday was ridiculous. I was not home all day, but it was a good day! Anyway, back to that later. Tj and I have been married almost two years. Crazy right!? Plus, our four year dating anniversary is coming up in a couple of days. I have learned some things in my short stint as a married woman. So here are my lessons learned.
1. Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness.
~Do not hold a grudge. Just don’t. Its not attractive and it just leads to resentment and a super unhappy marriage. The more you forgive, the happier you will be together.
2. Amp up the intimacy.
~ I am not just talking physically but that is also super important. Talk with each other. Do things he likes to do or she likes to do. Find things to do that you both like. Do date nights regularly. Get physical! In and out of the bedroom. It is super important to stay connected otherwise you lose each other in the chaos of life.
3. Do not talk bad about your spouse behind their back or with them around.
~ Such a big one! You want them to trust you and to know that you respect them. If you talk bad about them to other people, you are putting fuel in the resentment tank of your marriage. You want that tank empty! It will show that you respect them and that you care deeply for them to succeed in the outside world.
4. Jealousy is not good.
~ They picked you. You need to realize that. Their is no need to be insecure in marriage unless there are some major marital problems already brewing. Being insecure about other women and your husband leaving you for such women does not lift you up and does not lift him up either. Enjoy your marriage and be awesome!
5. The little things.
~ This is one thing that both TJ and I struggle with, just showing each other in the little ways that we love each other daily. Sure we say it, but just doing little things like the dishes, or picking up our laundry or rubbing the others back without asking sometimes goes by the wayside. Keep up the little things!
So, there is my five lessons I have learned. What have you learned in your marriages?
This past weekend was my birthday weekend! It was on Friday and my hubby had the whole day planned out. He is amazing! First he let me sleep in, which was much appreciated.
Then we made our way to Pittsburgh. I love the city of Pittsburgh. If we were not moving to Denver here in just over two weeks, I would make us move closer to Pittsburgh. First of all, it is just a great city and it is really beautiful if you like slightly run down but making a come back kind of places. But anyway, we went to Pittsburgh to go to our favorite climbing gym. It has this massive bouldering area which is exactly the type of climbing that we love. We spent several hours in there just climbing to our hearts content. We definitely realized that we are not nearly as good of climbers as we thought. I mean we knew we were not great but I at least felt like I could be better. We are hoping that once we move to Denver, we can find a great gym to get involved in. We want to climb on a much more regular basis.
After we were exhausted enough from climbing, we went closer to the heart of Pittsburgh and hit up the REI store and Cheesecake factory there. I could not help but being giddy while I was walking through REI because I know that I will be working there in three weeks! So excited! Just knowing that I will be working in an environment that I actually like and knowing that I get those pro deals just makes me super super excited!
Then we hit up the Cheesecake Factory. MMMMMMM That place has delicious food. I had their chicken parm sandwich. So yummy! Yay! Then I had the Adam’s Peanut Butter Cup Fudge Ripple cheesecake. Dude, it has butterfingers and reese’s in it. What is there not to love about that cheesecake?!
After that, he surprised me with a trip to the Drive-in to see Madagascar 3 and Snow White and the Huntsman. Oh my word. So awesome! I love the drive-in and he could not have picked a better ending to the night! Both movies were awesome!
Overall, I could not have had a better Birthday date day with my hubby! That led in to the rest of the weekend which was work work work work.
Well, I am off to eat and continue packing up my house! Yay moving!
Well, today is the third day of the April A-Z Challenge and I am continuing to keep with the lettters and my awesome product to talk about today is crashpads. They are very essential in my life especially during the warmer months. They are big squishy pieces of foam that are put at the bottom of a rock wall and if you wall when you are bouldering (climbing on a smaller surface without ropes) then that piece of foam is there to break your fall instead of the hard ground. It is super important to make sure those crash pads are placed under the climber because if they are not, then there could be serious injury to the climber.
I rock climb outside in the warmer months and in a gym when I can in the colder months. I love it, it helps me stay strong and lean (which is not two words I would use to describe myself this winter) and it is just fun. My husband is the one who got me into rock climbing when we were dating and it has stuck ever since.
If I am climbing in a gym or with other friends who bring their own crashpads, I will use whatever they bring but the ones that we prefer to use is from a company called Organic. They are a local company here in Central PA. (Side Note: It is great to support local companies when you can instead of just always going with a brand name big company.) We have become friends with the owner and we honestly just love the quality of their crashpads. If you have not heard of them or just want to take a look at their awesome colors on their custom made crash pads, check them out here.