This might open a can of worms but oh well. I got married young. I got married a week and a half before my 21st birthday. In an age when most people are waiting to get married, I knew that wasn’t what I was looking for. I didn’t know that before I turned 21 was going to be when I got married but I definitely knew I did not want to wait until my late 20s. Getting married later is definitely prudent for some people. Some people just are not ready for marriage that early. I’m an older soul, I knew I was ready for it. I am extremely happy I did too! I would not have it any other way. We have been married for 3 years and it has been the best 3 years of my life! He has made me so happy and we have helped each other grow so much! I love it!
~ More time together before you feel the need for kids. TJ and I are 24, we both have plenty of time to have kids. Having been married 3 years already without kids has been wonderful! We have gotten some solid just us time. We have taken trips that we could not afford with kids. We have made a move across the country that would have been way more difficult and maybe less likely if we had kids. I am just also coveting this time where it is just us. I don’t want to share him with anyone else for a bit longer. Its really nice.
~ Someone by your side at all times. Some people love to be independent and go off and do their own thing. Totally cool. I get that. I also love to be independent and do my own thing. But I also desperately want someone to share that with. I don’t want to have all these great experiences by myself. I want to share life with someone. I want my best friend by my side all the time. I have that and I love it so much!
~ Dual income. I am not gonna lie to you. I went straight from my parents house to college to marriage. I did not do the whole apartment by myself or with roommates thing. I don’t think I would have had the patience. I like my space. I like my house a certain way most of the time. Plus having to afford it, I would have struggled. Both of us working full time means having some fun spare money instead of living paycheck to paycheck. It is quite lovely. I know this is not true for everyone. We are both very conscious about our money and that doesn’t apply to everyone but having the dual income is way less stressful I think than just the one.
~ Someone to grow up with. This can be a good and a bad thing. For us, it turned out to be a good thing. We were both young and still had/have some growing up to do. But navigating these waters together has only brought us closer. I would not be as strong of a woman today if TJ had not been by my side this whole time. I would not be able to handle the different situations that life has thrown at me if TJ was not there. We still do stupid things that hurt each other but we are growing through those situations.
~ Not as much heartache. Now some people who get married young don’t stay married. I don’t believe that will be TJ and I. We are both dedicated for the long haul. But TJ and I were each others first for everything. Boyfriend, girlfriend, kiss, intimacy. We both were interested in other people and had some more casual relationships or semi-relationships with people but nothing serious until each other. We didn’t have to wade through heartache after heartache to find each other. I am so grateful and feel so blessed for that! I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Time to go hang with my man now that I’ve gotten all mushy!